The saddest and worst thing has happened- my beloved dad passed away unexpectedly at the end of January. I am utterly heartbroken (as well as seven months pregnant).
As this is an endometriosis blog I thought I’d share with you some of the ways that my dad impacted on my endometriosis journey, rather than focusing on his death. My dad was truly my endometriosis super hero and everybody needs one of those right?! Here are a just few of the reasons why:
-When I was diagnosed with endometriosis my dad spent hours reading all available scientific writings on endometriosis and making notes. I presume he was working on a cure 😀
-My dad came with me to both of my surgeries and supported me during my recovery, even though he was phobic of hospitals.
-My dad always believed me and never questioned my pain. He tried his best to help.
– My dad cried while watching the ‘Endo What?’ documentary and said that he can’t believe how strong women are.
-My dad donated regularly to Endometriosis UK.
-My dad once casually called me up at work to tell me he has been doing some research and that I need women’s health (pelvic) physio.I found this hilarious.
-My dad helped me out a bit financially so I could have a proper break from work following my most recent surgery to recover.
-My dad would gripe at how unfair it was that other people could get pregnant so easily while I was struggling. He constantly said that Mr B and I would make the best parents.
-My dad took every opportunity available to educate other people about endometriosis to raise awareness.
-My dad was easy to talk to about my health and was always checking on me when he knew I was struggling physically and/or emotionally.
I was hoping these things might be useful pointers for any other family members out there wanting to support a loved one with endometriosis but are feeling unsure what they can do. I can promise you that taking an interest and small actions mean a lot to somebody who is sick and scared. Be somebody’s superhero if you can!
I miss my dad so much- he really was the best. Living well with endometriosis is going to be that much harder without him by my side.
If you have any other tips about how family have supported you on your endometriosis journey I would love to hear them. Or it doesn’t even have to be family- what is the nicest thing another person has done to support you since you’ve gotten sick?